Unknown Facts of Ramayan – What actually caused separation to Lord Rama and Sita

Finally the time has come when I am going to narrate the reason for which Sita Mata & Lord Rama got separated in Ramayan. Perhaps today it’s the perfect time when I can try to write something on Ramayan Katha, because tonight it’s the auspicious night of Diwali(started writing this post on 23rd of Oct). This is the festival which originated since Ram avtar, on this very day Lord Rama came back to Ayodhya with Mata Sita & Laxman after the 14 years of long exile, so out of joy people of Ayodhya enlightened their houses with Deep(lamp). Deepavali, if I will split the word then it will be like Deep(lamp) & wali which means too many, so when too many dia/deeps will be enlightened together then it will be the victory of Light over darkness, good over evil and our heart will be filled with wisdom. However, to many of us certain things of Ramayan raise too many questions, i.e; why Lord Rama got separated with Mata Sita for so many times, even after being the God head why Lord Rama banished Mata Sita just paying importance to rumors spread by mere Washer men? Isn’t it strange? Perhaps your answer will be Yes, even to me this was strange, but not now as I have finally come to know the real facts through Bhagwat Katha & Ramayan Katha. Now I will be sharing the same with all of you.

Actually Lord Rama and Mata Sita both eventually got cursed, but before revealing the details about the curses, let me tell you one thing very clearly that it was really possible for any sages to curse any demigods during the age of Satya, Treta & Dwapar yugs, but it was impossible to curse Lord Vishnu and Mahadev until they used to accept the curse. In case of Lord Vishnu he got cursed twice, once by Narada Muni & later by Rishi Bhrigu.

narad cursing vishnuNarada muni curses Lord Vishnu: Once muni Narada started meditating in a Tapovan which was specially blessed by Lord Shiva as whoever will penance in that grove, no one will be able to disturb him in his penace. But this was an unknown fact to Narada, in between when Devraj Indra got scared thinking the possible reasons for which Narada muni is meditating, he sent Agni, Pawan & Varun dev, but failing to break Narad muni’s meditation they returned to Indra, then Indra sent to kamdev with nymphs and dancing girls, but consecutively he also returned to Indra with defeated face. On this, Narada muni started feeling proud of himself, as the special blessing of Mahadev on that grove was unknown to Narada, so he started thinking that perhaps it’s his tremendous power within himself that has defeated all the demigods. Later he met Lord Vishnu and boasted about his enormous power, at this Lord Vishnu smiled and applauded him. But as the proud feelings was on the rise in Narada, so Lord Vishnu decided to stop it, for this he made a Lila (Divine play). One day while traveling Narada muni saw a beautiful princess who was dancing then in a garden, seeing her Narada desired to know her identity. Later he came to know that the princess was Viswamohini, the daughter of Shilanidhi. Seeing Narad muni the king requested him to see the palm of his daughter and forecast what is written in her luck. When Narada muni checked her palm then he saw that the girl will prove to be really lucky as whoever will marry her, will become the king of 3 worlds. He also came to know that soon the sayamvar sava will be held where the princess will choose the husband of her own choice. Thinking all these Narada decided to marry the princess. After this Narada straight away went to Vaikuntha and asked for help from Lord Vishnu, he requested to bless him with most distinctive and most handsome look so that the princess chooses only to him in the Sayamvar sava. After that he paused for sometimes and after deep thinking he again added as “Oh Lord, please give me your look, I need the Hari look”, listening to that Vishnu granted the boon to Narada. But Hari means Vanar (Monkey), so Narada actually got the Monkey look who dressed like a prince. In the sayamvar sava when the princess looked at Narada then she laughed at his look and made fun of. In that sava Lord Vishnu was also there as the last Prince whom Viswamohini proceeded to offer the Varmala (garland), when Narada chased her and wanted to get the Varmala by force then Lord Vishnu came in between and accepted the varmala, in this way finally the princess got married to Lord Vishnu. Actually Viswamohini was none other than the Goddess Laxmi. 🙂 When Narada discovered that he was looking like a monkey then he cursed Lord Vishnu saying that the way he has lost his beloved because of Vishnu, similarly Vishnu too will have to remain as separated from his wife Laxmi for one year. Listening to that Lord Vishnu said Tathastu(so be it). And in this way he accepted the curse of Narada, had he wanted to reject Narad Muni’s curse, he could have done so as he was capable to do it, but he accepted, the reason I will tell you later at the end. Now let’s move on to the 2nd curse.

bhrigu curses vishnuRishi Bhrigu curses to Lord Vishnu: This incident is related to the Uttar kand. Once there was a time when war was being held between demigods and demons, in that war Lord Vishnu also took part on behalf of demigods. Incidentally few demons escaped the war field and Bhrigu Patni(wife of Rishi Bhrigu) gave them shelter in the ashram(hermitage) and promised to protect them. Lord Vishnu asked her to leave the path and allow him to fight with those demons, but she refused and told Vishnu that if he really wants to fight with those demons then he will have to kill her first, or else she won’t move from the path. But Lord Vishnu refused to do so as she was a woman. Then voluntarily she chose the death instead of leaving her promise unfulfilled and ended her life. When Rishi Bhrigu came to know the fact then he got angry and cursed Vishnu that the way he is feeling pain now loosing her beloved, similarly Lord Vishnu too will be separated from Mata Laxmi during his Ram avtar and feel immense pain. Lord Vishnu also accepted it with smile.

Now I will be explaining the curse that Mata Laxmi got.

Curse to Mata Laxmi: Before the sayamvar sava took place, one day Mata Sita went to roam in a forest accompanied by Sakhis (female friends), while roaming Mata Sita found a tree where a Tota & his female partner Mayna was discussing many things about the Prince Rama, listening to that Mata Sita asked her sakhis to get both the birds and bring them to her. When both were presented in front of Maa Sita then she asked – “He Sukh(Parriot), who are you, where do you live, who the person is about whom you both were discussing so much”. Then the male Parrot said “He Devi, we are the Tota & Mayna of Maharshi Valmiki, we live in the hermitage of Rishi Valmiki itself, we have seen him writing a grantha which name he has chosen as Ramayana. In that Ramayana there is the god naming as Rama who will marry to Mata Janki.”. Then Mata Sita further asked to the Bird “How Lord Rama looks like?” Hearing that the Bird said “it seems that you the Mata Janki whom Lord Rama will marry to”, Then Mata Sita replied in affirmative and told “Yes, I am the Mata Janki, soon my sayamvar sava will take place in Mithila, as you have said that Lord Rama will marry me, so let’s see if really that happens or not, but until I am getting married to Rama you both will stay with me”, then both the birds said that “Devi, we are the birds who live in forest, how come we will survive in your confined palace?, we can’t live out there, so please set us free and let go”, but Mata did not listen to them, both the Tota & Mayna urged a lot, but failed to convince her. After that Mata also asked to the Mayna that “if the Tota wants to go then he can, but I can’t set you free, you need to stay with me”. Listening to that the Mayna cried a lot and became sad, at that point the Mayna was pregnant, when she felt that Mata Sita won’t let her go at any cost, then she got angry and cursed Sita saying that the way during her pregnancy she is being separated from her husband, similarly when Sita will also get pregnant then she will be separated from Rama too, saying that the Mayna died. Later the Tota said to Sita that “He Sita, today you have separated me from my wife, so now I will also die and reincarnate as Dhobi (washer man) in my next birth in Ayodhya, at that point I will spread the rumor so much in your name that Lord Rama will be forced to banish you. In this way he also died after cursing. So these are the curses or the reasons that caused the separation in Lord Rama & Sita’s life.
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But don’t you think that so many curses and the one result of separation is not mere coincidence, because when we read or listen to the Ram Katha or Bhagwat katha then always we come to know that the Lord Krishna is the ultimate God head and he is the reason of all reasons, then why he bears so much pain of separation repeatedly in Ram avtar or in Krishna avtar with Radha Maa, in Krishna avtar also god got separated from Radha Maa for 100 years because of the curse which was given to him by his own devotee naming Sridama, and after the long 100 years Krishna again met Radha Maa and all the Gopis & his parents in Vrindaban. So these can not be coincidence, rather all these happens as per the wishes of Krishna himself, we know him that he is param dayalu (merciful, compassionate), nothing more than a devotee matters to Krishna, he himself has said that. So if we will try to know the reason behind all these sufferings then we will come to know that it’s the devotees only for whom Lord Krishna appears on this earth again and again. Explaining it further to all of you, we all know that in Ram avtar the prime villain was Ravana, in past Lord Krishna appeared as Baraha avtar (the Boar)to kill Hiranyaksha and Narsimha(form of Man-Lion) avtar to kill  Hiranyakashipu. So who these negative characters are? And who were Shishupala and Dantavakra whom Lord Krishna himself killed in Dwapar yug? They are none other than the Jaya & Vijaya who been 2 Parshadas (demigods) as gatekeepers in Vaikuntha. One day both of them committed a huge mistake by restricting Sanat Kumaras(Sanak, Sanand, Sanatan & Sanat Kumar) from meeting Lord Vishnu & Mata Laxmi at the gate of Vaikuntha, then out of anger the Sanat Kumaras cursed them that they will be fallen on the Mrityuloka(Earth) and live there, later when Lord Vishnu himself appeared with Mata Laxmi at the gate & asked for forgiveness on behalf of Jaya & Vijaya then on his request Sanat Kumaras restricted their curse upto 3 births for Jaya & Vijaya, so in their first birth on earth the became Hiranyaksha & Hiranyakashipu, in their 2nd birth they became as Ravana & Kumbhokarna and finally they became Shishupala and Dantavakra in Dwapar. After getting the curse from Sanat Kumaras both of them requested Lord Vishnu that as they will born 3 times on earth so it should be Lord Vishnu only who should also reappear each time to kill them and when God kills someone then instantly the soul achieves the salvation in the pious feet of Lord Krishna. So it’s the numerous devotees only for which God himself comes on this earth and makes the Leela (divine plays), but due to the lack of knowledge I see people making lots of negative statements upon god, many people raise question on Lord Rama asking if he really played the role of a responsible husband or not, they also don’t hesitate to raise finger against Krishna by asking if Radha Maa was his true love then why he left her, but they never read any bonafide shastras, or Vedas or scriptures. where complete information is available. People find it tasty to make ironical statement upon the God head. But in return of your allegations God always gives you the blessings only. However, after reading this post if you know anyone who engage himself in maligning the character of god then please make him read this post, if you will do so then you will offer your seva (service) to the Sanatan Dharma. So dear friends and devotees, let’s come and spread this article among your social circles so that everyone can be benefited out of this article and can step forward towards the Mokshya (salvation). Hare Krishna. 🙂

10 thoughts on “Unknown Facts of Ramayan – What actually caused separation to Lord Rama and Sita

  1. sanjay hinduja

    thank you for such a wonderful article. If possible pls make only 1 correcttion . In the statement where it is mentioned that one must read sad granths or mythological books . There should not be this word “mythological books” because meaning of mythology is that which is just a myth. Instead you can have words like bonofied shastras, or vedas or scriptures.
    H.G.Chatanyiacharan pr use to say that the word mythology is commonly used in india without even realising what does it mean. This word is given to us by westerns as they never use to beleive in our scriptures

  2. rajtheadmin Post author

    Dandvat Pranam Prabhuji for correcting me, even I also hesitated to use that word, however was not getting proper word to be used, but by the grace of Radha Madhav you have corrected me. Thank you, please keep on visiting the site and always correct me and guide. Hare Krishna. 🙂

  3. Mayuri

    Hey..this article is really very interesting..

    Thank u for this knowledge..

    It is very helpful for me at least as I will share this knowledge to my friends..


    1. rajtheadmin Post author

      Dear Mayuri, thank you for your kind feedback. Yes, please do share the knowledge that you have gathered from this article so that misconceptions among people get wiped off. Thank you. Hare Krishna.

  4. Hema D.

    Hey Thank you for this. I my self was against to those ppl who make some wrong statement against sita Agni pariksha and her exile period. I read lot of things to understand reaon behind our epics. please let us know some good books. And keep updating the actual history happened bfor kaliyuga. Thank You so much.

  5. Vyshnavi

    Hi, Thanks for the great info for which I have been searching since long.
    Could you please let us know the source of this info as we are curious to know about more info.


  6. Kishan Kumar

    Thank you sir.This article is really great. Lots of knowledge I gathered which I don’t know. I also make some wrong comments on Shri RAM for the separation with Mata Sita on rumours. Thank you very much for perfect guidance.

  7. Arjun singh

    Thankyou sir
    This article is really great
    but i will suggest you that
    (Ap apne articles hindi me bhi likha kro enlish words ka istemal kar k)- like this Type hindi

  8. Pavan

    Hello admin,. Wonderful post.It is really informative.people know about Ramayana in general.but very few people know about these unknown facts.we all are great devotee of lord Rama.Hanuman ji was greatest devotee of lord Rama.The information provided in the above article helps common people to know more about Ramayana. Thank you. Have a nice day.


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